“I love him but he does not love me.”
“I love him but he loves somebody else.”
“I love him but he doesn’t know it”.
I love him but am afraid it might ruin our friendship.”
These are some of what my friends usually say to me when they ask for
some advice. I am neither a “love genius” nor someone who had a degree
on Bachelor of Arts in Love and Relationships. I probably can say
that am an observer of life and love and I’ve learned a lot thru that.
(though this wouldn’t give a license for me to advice, but anyway, we r
on a democratic country…everyone is free to write whats on his mind as
long as he knows his limitation)
Back to my topic…
Just like any other girl, fairytales and movies end with “…and they
live happily ever after” make me believe that love exists to stand and
stay- and because of that idea, I have started to dream and create my
own love story for so long. They differ depending on what situations or
emotions are driving me in- and believe me, those stories could
probably win an Oscar award if given a chance to be seen on the big
screen.
A man wearing his best suit ever while looking directly on my eyes
saying how much he loves me, a romantic place where there are only two
people- me and my man (and of course, our dear moon, shining his light
towards us) and a nice dinner date with endless love songs playing.
These are some of the content of my dreams and it feels good when you
imagine yourself with someone, somewhere in those dreams, but it strikes
your heart hard when you open your eyes, and finally realize that
everything is just a “smoke” destined to vanished as soon as the air
whispers.
What am I saying? well in the real world, you could not simply say “I
love you”. There is always a “but” which makes it complicated. The “but”
becomes a big hindrance why people can’t simply express their
feelings.
Throughout the history of lovekind, we were given the idea that love is
something which is out of this world. It has been a subject of endless
poems and other literatures. Both give us an idea of what love is, but
it doesn’t end there because we usually question the validity ff such
definition.
William Shakespeare believes in love but most of his stories often
involves conflict which is the “but” in love. Romeo and Juliet love each
other but society demands the opposite. Paris loves Juliet but she
loves Romeo. Romeo at first loves Rosaline but she is unreachable. These
are just some of the “but” which Shakespear believes in when it comes
to love.
So, the bottom line here is that, why love needs to be complicated?
Can’t people just love and be happy? Why instead of saying, “I love
you”, we usually say, “I love you but…”?
Why is it like that? Perhaps, even Doctor love couldn’t answer that.
As for me, love becomes complicated because we make it that way. We
decide how to react on certain things which evolves on love. We are the
one who chooses what feeling to share or not to share.
It’s nice to be in love, but watch out to the “buts” that surrounds
this word. When love becomes painful, its time to let go but for some
people, its the time to hold even tighter. Its your choice anyway:-)
Dear 2015,
Few hours from now, you will be coming to my life. I want you to know
how excited I am to welcome you. I'm sure it will be an awesome 365 days
with you, just like how it was with your older brother, 2014. I will
miss him. There were some bad moments, as it was with your previous
brothers, nevertheless, he did a great job I must say. He took me to
some nice places, let me spent some times
with the one I love, and introduced new wonderful friends to me.
Surely, it is hard to let him go as he is taking some memories along
too.
Once you meet 2014 on the way here, please tell him how thankful I am. I will never forget him.
Oh by the way, a lot of people will throw huge parties and entertainments just to celebrate your arrival. Although we treat you as special as possible, please be aware that it might only be on the 1st day. There will be a LOT of work to do for you in the next 365 days. Your brother 2014, has left some unfinished jobs and we are hoping that you would be able to finish them. Please don't forget to bring Happiness, Peace and Love with you as you come. They will be of great companions. We all need them here.
God told me too that HE has a lot of wonderful things HE asked you to give to me when you come. I am looking forward to them
See you soon!
Jan
I've received this message from a stranger. It was cute so I decided to post it here ;)
Here it goes;
I want you to know that women are like apples on the trees. The best
ones are on the top of the tree. Most men don’t want to reach for the
good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead
they sometimes take the apples from the ground but they are not as good
but easy. The apples at the top think there is something wrong with
them, when in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the
right man to come along. The one who is brave enough to go all the way
to top of the tree.
Now, men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes and its up to women
to stomp the shit out of them until they turn into something
acceptable to have dinner with
You can stomp on me anytime you want to and I am a very brave man who would climb that tree for you.......
You are very beautiful...I hope you find the man of your dreams and
when you do, I hope that that man will see and understand what a
precious gift he has just received!!
Watch yourself because there are wolves (men with wrong intentions) on this site
Remember to KEEP YOUR WALL up and when you can find the man who can
slowly and patiently slower your wall down ..then you'll know that you
have found him..
Do not be too transparent (give out too much info) on this site, leave
enough to make him want to come back. And see how much he will.. if he
is serious he will always contact you even if you not online.. also do
not reply back at all times..make him think you're busy talking to
someone else..if he truly wants you.. you will be worth the wait to
him!! (I would wait for you) anyways ..
I am not expecting a reply..I just wanted to tell you .take care of yourself beautiful!
From a certain "World Traveler"
I just want to share this poem I saw in one of the forums I'm following. It's written by a certain member named Eliza. It actually describes what I'm feeling now.
I miss being in Love…
I miss how it feels warm and peaceful inside
I miss those calls just to say he’s thinking of you
I miss embracing him while laying by his side
I miss that feeling of intimacy when you know it’s so true
I miss being in Love…
I miss coming home to his arms open wide
I miss dancing together to sweet loves melodies when your in the mood
I miss making silly faces just to pissed him off
I miss throwing jokes and makes his face turns to red
I miss being in Love…
I miss those long walks side by side where our hands meet and held so tight
I miss when he makes me smile when I was feeling so blue
I miss being in Love…
I miss saying I'm sorry when it was my fault because God knows I’ve tried
But the most precious moment I miss is saying those meaningful words… I love you
Well... I don't really miss someone from my past...
I JUST SIMPLY MISS BEING IN LOVE.
Who would that be? No idea, I just know that he's gonna be worth the wait! ;)
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