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“I love him but he does not love me.”

“I love him but he loves somebody else.”

“I love him but he doesn’t know it”.

I love him but am afraid it might ruin our friendship.”

These are some of what my friends usually say to me when they ask for some advice. I am neither a “love genius” nor someone who had a degree on Bachelor of Arts in Love and Relationships. I probably can say that am an observer of life and love and I’ve learned a lot thru that. (though this wouldn’t give a license for me to advice, but anyway, we r on a democratic country…everyone is free to write whats on his mind as long as he knows his limitation)

Back to my topic…

Just like any other girl, fairytales and movies end with “…and they live happily ever after” make me believe that love exists to stand and stay- and because of that idea, I have started to dream and create my own love story for so long. They differ depending on what situations or emotions are driving me in- and believe me, those stories could probably win an Oscar award if given a chance to be seen on the big screen.

A man wearing his best suit ever while looking directly on my eyes saying how much he loves me, a romantic place where there are only two people- me and my man (and of course, our dear moon, shining his light towards us) and a nice dinner date with endless love songs playing. These are some of the content of my dreams and it feels good when you imagine yourself with someone, somewhere in those dreams, but it strikes your heart hard when you open your eyes, and finally realize that everything is just a “smoke” destined to vanished as soon as the air whispers.

What am I saying? well in the real world, you could not simply say “I love you”. There is always a “but” which makes it complicated. The “but” becomes a big hindrance why people can’t simply express their feelings.

Throughout the history of lovekind, we were given the idea that love is something which is out of this world. It has been a subject of endless poems and other literatures. Both give us an idea of what love is, but it doesn’t end there because we usually question the validity ff such definition.

William Shakespeare believes in love but most of his stories often involves conflict which is the “but” in love. Romeo and Juliet love each other but society demands the opposite. Paris loves Juliet but she loves Romeo. Romeo at first loves Rosaline but she is unreachable. These are just some of the “but” which Shakespear believes in when it comes to love.

So, the bottom line here is that, why love needs to be complicated? Can’t people just love and be happy? Why instead of saying, “I love you”, we usually say, “I love you but…”?

Why is it like that? Perhaps, even Doctor love couldn’t answer that.

As for me, love becomes complicated because we make it that way. We decide how to react on certain things which evolves on love. We are the one who chooses what feeling to share or not to share.

It’s nice to be in love, but watch out to the “buts” that surrounds this word. When love becomes painful, its time to let go but for some people, its the time to hold even tighter. Its your choice anyway:-)