“I love him but he does not love me.”
“I love him but he loves somebody else.”
“I love him but he doesn’t know it”.
I love him but am afraid it might ruin our friendship.”
These are some of what my friends usually say to me when they ask for
some advice. I am neither a “love genius” nor someone who had a degree
on Bachelor of Arts in Love and Relationships. I probably can say
that am an observer of life and love and I’ve learned a lot thru that.
(though this wouldn’t give a license for me to advice, but anyway, we r
on a democratic country…everyone is free to write whats on his mind as
long as he knows his limitation)
Back to my topic…
Just like any other girl, fairytales and movies end with “…and they
live happily ever after” make me believe that love exists to stand and
stay- and because of that idea, I have started to dream and create my
own love story for so long. They differ depending on what situations or
emotions are driving me in- and believe me, those stories could
probably win an Oscar award if given a chance to be seen on the big
screen.
A man wearing his best suit ever while looking directly on my eyes
saying how much he loves me, a romantic place where there are only two
people- me and my man (and of course, our dear moon, shining his light
towards us) and a nice dinner date with endless love songs playing.
These are some of the content of my dreams and it feels good when you
imagine yourself with someone, somewhere in those dreams, but it strikes
your heart hard when you open your eyes, and finally realize that
everything is just a “smoke” destined to vanished as soon as the air
whispers.
What am I saying? well in the real world, you could not simply say “I
love you”. There is always a “but” which makes it complicated. The “but”
becomes a big hindrance why people can’t simply express their
feelings.
Throughout the history of lovekind, we were given the idea that love is
something which is out of this world. It has been a subject of endless
poems and other literatures. Both give us an idea of what love is, but
it doesn’t end there because we usually question the validity ff such
definition.
William Shakespeare believes in love but most of his stories often
involves conflict which is the “but” in love. Romeo and Juliet love each
other but society demands the opposite. Paris loves Juliet but she
loves Romeo. Romeo at first loves Rosaline but she is unreachable. These
are just some of the “but” which Shakespear believes in when it comes
to love.
So, the bottom line here is that, why love needs to be complicated?
Can’t people just love and be happy? Why instead of saying, “I love
you”, we usually say, “I love you but…”?
Why is it like that? Perhaps, even Doctor love couldn’t answer that.
As for me, love becomes complicated because we make it that way. We
decide how to react on certain things which evolves on love. We are the
one who chooses what feeling to share or not to share.
It’s nice to be in love, but watch out to the “buts” that surrounds
this word. When love becomes painful, its time to let go but for some
people, its the time to hold even tighter. Its your choice anyway:-)
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"Just My Luck" is the story of Ashley Albright, a bright girl and known to be as the luckiest girl in Manhattan, where everything goes with her. But little does she know, her good fortunate is about to change in just one kiss. Jake Hardin who dreams of success as a band manager, is her exact opposite. He is a guy plagued with injustice wherein he sometimes being placed in compromising or injurious positions. When the two strangers meet and kiss at a masquerade ball, Ashley suddenly finds herself the unluckiest woman in the world while Jake having all the luck he needs. They switch paths with just a simple kiss. Ashley desperately tried to find Jake and reverse her misfortune. Ashley discovers that her terrible twist-of-fate is the luckiest thing that ever happened to her as the two fall in love with each other.
The movie, backed up with great performances is a romantic, funny and has a unique story. It's light-hearted and not to forget the performance of McFly who is currently a successful British band in reality.
"Just My Luck" shows the reality happening to some people who are experiencing good luck and bad luck. Ashley portrays those people who depends only with what they call "luck". Whatever good happens to them, they automatically say, "It's my luck!". On the other hand, when bad things happen, they usually blame their lost of their luck, and eventually lead them in frustration and the feeling of being a loser. While there are some people, portrays by Jake, who after experiencing "bad luck", turns "good luck", is still able to relate with people who don't have it so well.
The movie is is not just an ordinary teen-age movie, but it also teaches the viewer that life is not perfect. There can be good and bad times, and people must learn how to handle what life offer them. In the end, we all find learning from them.
The "Joy Luck Club" is one of the
interesting movies I have ever seen. This was an adaptation of Amy Tan's
novel about the four Chinese women bound together by hope.
Wayne
Wang's directorial style is truly a remarkable and commendable. He uses
flashbacks to connect 16 different stories. The movie might be more
focused on the feminine side of life since the movie does not have a
major male actor. However, despite of this one-sided view, I must admit,
I was captured by the movie's emotional pull. Every line speaks
directly to my heart.
Amy Tan did a good job writing this novel, and Wayne Wang for putting this in the big picture. The story focuses on four Chinese immigrants families in San Francisco who started the club known as "The Joy Luck Club".
For a non-movie fanatic, the story may be a bit confusing because it's a story within a story which some people can hardy follow.
Many times in my life, I was dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions I made and the circumstances around. When I hit a wall of failure, it was often resulted in feelings of worthlessness.
Those were the moments wherein, I just found myself sitting back and pitying myself. I based my life’s worth then on what I can do and what I own.
But attending a Christian fellowship for some years taught me to trust on what God says about me. Not on what I knew and not what I saw or heard from the world. It took me through a time of rediscovery, affirming myself clearly that I was on the right track and that my worth was still derived from the truth that I am created in His image.
These truths helped me securely understand that I have a great worth. My worth is given by God and can’t be taken away by failures.
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